Gaytopia at Sea
Perhaps there are better things to enjoy in life than an Atlantis cruiseA term used in verb form to refer to checking out another gay man, perhaps in a sexually predatory way, but primarily characterized by nonverbal signals for sex. Also can be used in noun form to refer to the person being cruised, i.e. [...]
Re-Tried and True
As I ponder my circuit calendar for the year ahead and try to budget my limited gaycation days and dollars, my priorities come into question and I find myself waxing philosophical. When is something a tried-and-true tradition, and when is it truly tired, a ritual ready to be retired? How are we who really get [...]
When Epic is the New Typical
What do you do when epic is the new typical? Here in San Francisco, we are blessed by the fact that every weekend brings another opportunity for an excess of party, dance and joy. The only downside to this nightlife renaissance we are experiencing is that one person couldn’t possibly attend every fabulous party. So, [...]
Thicker Than Blood
In loving memory of Suzan’s Big DaddyAn older gay man. He may or may not prefer the company of younger men, but if he does and if he is moneyed, he is likely to be the dominant or top in the relationship. Also, “Leather Daddy.”, Lee Hamrick Fabulous friends surround us [...]
Gifts That Keep on Giving
Most people wait until the holidays to be charitable, but nobody gets into the spirit of giving like the gays, which is why I love them so. For us, opportunities for togetherness aren’t just a seasonal thing. Counting the blessings we create among our chosen families is a year-round pursuit of happiness, and it’s inspiring, [...]
Lyrical Labors of Love
I try never to take the magic of music for granted, and while I live to give props to the DJs that keep me dancing, I’d love to share some love for the singers, songwriters, musicians and remixers that bring the beats to life. Vocals born from our common cause evoke a familiar feeling and [...]
Lifesaving Fashion
Project Inform, beneficiary of Nasty, my monthly fun-raiser at the Powerhouse, mashes up all the reasons why I love my gays in an Evening of Hope – A Night of Lifesaving Fashion. Known for its condom couture fashion show, the event is one of my favorite parties with purpose. It brings together fabulous fundraising and [...]
Remember the Party
Remember the Party is more than just the name of a fabulous disco dance, it’s a way of life. Re-living the decadent days of disco is a heartening trip down memory lane. It was a simpler time, relatively speaking, a time untainted by the trauma and drama of the modern, complicatedAn intentionally vague term used to describe one’s [...]
Family of Choice
I’ve realized that there’s a connection for me between growing up Jewish and growing up gay by choice. Much like my San Framily is the familyCode used to describe one’s own gay kind, i.e. “Do you think he’s family?” or “Don’t worry, he’s family.” I chose for myself, my upbringing as a gay man was my [...]
A DJ Disciple
If god is a DJ, life is a dancefloor, love is the rhythm, you are the music.” - Pink As a professional homosociologistA fag hag who appreciates and actively participates in a wide range of gay subcultures, and who takes particular pride in being accepted as one of the gays in settings that typically include no [...]
